Fractured or painful relationships are an epidemic today.
I don’t go a day without having, or seeing a conversation online about it.
In the past 6-10 years So many have lost lifelong friends, felt betrayed by people they thought they knew or had shaped their faith in their earlier years. Even families are avoiding each other, keeping it superficial to stay safe or calling it quits altogether because the tension and conflicting values are just too high.
This can cause frustration, sadness, anxiety, avoidance of new relationships, anger, depression and loneliness, among many other emotions.
It can be challenging to process the losses and grief that comes from broken relationships and move forward.
It can also be agonizing to deal with the ongoing grief when you are still in a challenging relationship. There will be those in your life that you won’t or can’t cut ties with like parents, siblings, or co-workers. It’s hard facing the reality that the tensions may never go away, you may never see eye to eye and there’s no guarantee that the relationship will ever be easy or the same again.
What do you do with all that heartache and angst?
Because believe it or not, doing nothing doesn’t make it go away. Time doesn’t actually make it better.
Sometimes it’s hard to find safe places to process and even when you do have a safe space it can feel like you’re just airing your grievances with no real solution or path forward.
The grief I have had in the last 10 years because of these losses in relationships and in the faith space is actually what led me to search out this work. I wanted a way to process it for myself, but also to help others. Exploring the Grief Recovery Method has been an amazing decision that I think everyone should consider.
How to know if grief recovery work is for you:
- You have broken relationships that you still can’t stop thinking about.
- You avoid new relationships/friendships because you don’t want to get hurt again.
- You keep your relationships at surface level only.
- You have people in your life that are really hard for you, you’re often frustrated, it’s a constant struggle but you don’t want to cut them out and need to know how to have them in your life without so much angst.
- You feel alone in your struggle.
- You want to know how to process all of your grief better.
So many people are walking around with constant grief and they don’t even realize how much it’s holding them back or hindering their flourishing.
The great thing about going through the Grief Recovery Method is that it helps you process a specific grief you’re carrying in a safe space AND gives you the tools to do this with every other grief you have or you’ll encounter in the future. It isn’t just airing your hurts, although you do that, it’s also taking the next step toward health and healing with tools that work.
But how does grief recovery work help me with my relationships?
The result is this….. even if a relationship is never restored you have more peace going forward so you’re not stuck overthinking it or in constant pain about it. You may still feel sadness but not pain. There is a difference.
It also means that if you’re in a challenging relationship and that other person never changes, you have. You get to interact and move forward with your integrity, your boundaries and your peace.
We never change other people. We only get to change how we show up. And it’s always worth it.